AUSTIN, TX -- When it comes to motherhood, women face double standards at every turn. Deaf vlogger Michelle Lane believes these double standards are so prevalent that they box women into a corner where every choice they make is wrong. In her Facebook video “The Ugly Judgment of Society,” Lane takes on the paralyzing attitudes women face when dealing with issues such as child-rearing age, adoption, abortion, work, and abusive partners.
Girl gets pregnant before 25---people say "She's too young to have a baby"
Girl gets pregnant after 30---"She's too old"
Girl considers abortion--"She's a murderer!"
Girl considers adoption--"Can't believe she's just going to give her baby away, how could she do that?"
Girl keeps baby--"How's she going to afford that baby??"
Girl gets welfare---"She's a sponger living on benefits taking our money"
Girl gets job---"How can she stand to be away from her baby all day like that?"
Girl becomes a stay at home Mum--"She probably doesn't do anything all day but watch Jeremy Kyle"
Girl stops hanging out with friends--"She totally changed when she had that baby"
Girl goes out--"She's always partying and leaving her kids at home!"
Girl wants to leave nasty partner--"Nobody knows what it means to work things out anymore"
Girl wants to stay with nasty partner--"She's dumb!"
Girl eats burger--"Fat ass"
Girl eats salad--"Must be one of those anorexic health nuts"
Girl is overprotective of her child---"You're acting like a psycho, poor kids!"
Girl lets her child play without her---"Where is this kid's Mum??"
Girl smacks her kid---"Call the police and social services!"
Girl refuses to smack---"Her kids are gonna be such brats"
No matter what you do, people will talk. So do what is best for YOU, not other people...
Lane is the single parent of two children, ages 7 and 3. Recently, she told the Today show that she often faces harsh criticism for choosing to raise children as a Deaf mother. “I get judged all the time,” she says.
“Deaf people are not supposed to have children because we are carrying the genes of deafness.” She’s also judged by people when out in public. “We are more loud and wild than hearing people because we are not aware of sound and can’t hear ourselves, so they look at us like animals,” she says. “But it’s not only that all people, not just the Deaf, get judged all the time. It doesn't matter what you do you will be judged, no question.”
SOURCE - MAGAZINEGOOD
